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camper4lyfeI don't get it. I really don't. I get blocked on AIM...ok...no big deal...I get unblocked...then imed...ok, cool...carry on conversations...things are good. All of a sudden I get blocked again...i get unblocked, so I figure, ok...she wants to talk to me again. WRONG! I don't get it.
Is it so wrong to care about someone enough to want to ask how they're doing, but respect their wishes enough NOT to ask them? Is it really so bad to want to know so badly that you have to ask one of their friends?
Double standards and lies. That's exactly why I left. Not right for me to date...ok for her. I always initiated conversations after I was unblocked...NOT true. At least 50/50. Maybe I did initate more than she, but she came to me first. That, in my mind says, ok, I'm ready to be civil and talk.
Why is it me that's always made out to be the bad guy? Yes, I did break up with her...but why? Because I wasn't happy, and neither was she. I know she wasn't. We just werne't right for each other. I could see that. It was staring me in the face.
WTF? I just don't get it.
Bad thing is, I did lose a friend. I hate losing friends.
Ah yes...add to the confusion? I remember clearly her saying (post unblocking), that she was going to come up next winter to go snowmobiling with me. Does this make any sense to anyone? Certainly doesn't to me.
Ok...enough for now. Will have more later once I get thoughts straighter in my head.
Is it so wrong to care about someone enough to want to ask how they're doing, but respect their wishes enough NOT to ask them? Is it really so bad to want to know so badly that you have to ask one of their friends?
Double standards and lies. That's exactly why I left. Not right for me to date...ok for her. I always initiated conversations after I was unblocked...NOT true. At least 50/50. Maybe I did initate more than she, but she came to me first. That, in my mind says, ok, I'm ready to be civil and talk.
Why is it me that's always made out to be the bad guy? Yes, I did break up with her...but why? Because I wasn't happy, and neither was she. I know she wasn't. We just werne't right for each other. I could see that. It was staring me in the face.
WTF? I just don't get it.
Bad thing is, I did lose a friend. I hate losing friends.
Ah yes...add to the confusion? I remember clearly her saying (post unblocking), that she was going to come up next winter to go snowmobiling with me. Does this make any sense to anyone? Certainly doesn't to me.
Ok...enough for now. Will have more later once I get thoughts straighter in my head.
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Date: 2001-03-11 03:45 pm (UTC)she's going to keep up these head games as long as you let her. and that means not giving her anything to work with.
how you want to do this is up to you.
you may have to take the route you did with me and vice versa. we didn't talk for months. i know you hate losing friends, but some times it happens.
hat you need to do is look at the behaviors that rea upsetting you. are these behaviors that you want a friend of yours to engage in?
can you honestly tolerate it?
is trying to be friends worth the grief?
answers only you have.
i'm here for ya.
Blocking
If she blocks you then that means she doesn't want to talk with you. That's easy to understand. You basically just have to stop sending her messages or contacting her. If that's the case, then how do you know when she unblocks you? Do you get a reply from her after sending her a message, even though you were blocked, meaning that you shouldn't have sent the message in the first place? Does she send you a message, out of the blue, saying that you've been unblocked? There's a bit unanswered there.
-Ben M.
Re: Blocking
Date: 2001-03-12 11:09 am (UTC)Once you're unblocked, their SN shows back up on your buddy list.
Re: Blocking
She might be pulling petals from her mind. Sounds like she's confused. You might just want to stay away, unless she literally tells you that it's OK to talk to her.
-Ben M.
Re: Blocking
Date: 2001-03-13 01:19 pm (UTC)Re: Blocking
I see that recently she talks about not understanding why her Boston friend complains about his relationship and does not do anything about it. But I get the feeling that she the same way with the relationship she had with you. I think that she understands the situation, but she seems to be too much in denial or stubborn to accept it. What do you think?
-Ben M.
Re: Blocking
Date: 2001-03-30 09:10 am (UTC)